#81 Setting Boundaries: Navigating People Pleasing and Difficult Conversations with Allison KT

In this episode of "The Confident Mompreneur," your host Kyrie delves into the world of people pleasing and setting healthy boundaries with special guest Allison KT. Allison, a coach, reiki master, and EFT practitioner, shares her journey from being a recovering people pleaser to becoming an advocate for mental health-focused boundary setting.

With a background in psychology and conflict transformation, Allison provides valuable insights into the four distinct types of people pleasers: the conflict avoider, the self-doubter, the overachiever, and the over-empathizer. She believes that people-pleasing tendencies are influenced by both nature and nurture, particularly for women and mothers who often feel the pressure to be maternal and selfless.

Kyrie and Allison discuss the fine line between being a kind person who enjoys serving others and crossing into the territory of harmful people pleasing. They emphasize the importance of boundaries as a means to create a healthy environment for both parties involved while teaching individuals how they deserve to be treated.

The conversation takes a deep dive into the distinctions between outer and inner boundaries, exploring how to prepare for difficult conversations effectively. Allison generously shares a simple four-sentence script to initiate these conversations without creating conflict, opting for reflection rather than defensiveness.

The podcast further explores dealing with individuals who disregard our boundaries and offers strategies to protect our inner peace, including the option of cutting off or regulating access to those who do not respect our limits. Allison notes that mothers are often more adept at setting boundaries for their children than for themselves, shedding light on the challenges many face in self-advocacy.

Lastly, the episode addresses the anxiety that can accompany these challenging conversations and provides practical advice on processing emotions and maintaining a sense of safety during boundary-setting encounters. Tune in to "Setting Boundaries" to discover how to navigate the complex terrain of people pleasing, self-care, and assertive communication for a healthier, happier you.

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